Welcome to Dr. John Trent and Dr. Tony Wheeler's Blog... and the main site for equipping people create a culture of the Blessing in their homes, churches, workplaces and world!
Without a doubt, Dr. Wheeler and I have the best jobs in the world. We get to wake up in the morning and use our training as a counselors, pastors, educators and coaches to help people like YOU create a culture of the Blessing!
I’ll explain what the Blessing is shortly - and why and how we go about helping people live out this biblical tool by making it a "culture" in their life and family. But know too that you've reached the home of StrongFamilies.com - Dr. Trent and Dr. Wheeler's speaking ministry that sends us out all over the country as well. And you'll find a bookstore here, along with a clear PATH you can follow in doing three things:
Step one: Lean what the Blessing is all about - the "why" it's so crucial for your children, your spouse, and your loved ones.
Step two: Tools that can help you Bless others. Like how every month you'll find a specific way to give and live the Blessing. For example, in September, we'll coach you how to write a "Backpack Blessing" for your children to take to school - so your words of Blessing are going with them to go up against the challenges and negative words they'll hear. In October, we ask people to write a letter of Blessing to someone in their life story who "taught" them - or to a teacher who is pouring into the life of their child right now. You'll also find tools like a brand new small group series on the Blessing, a link to the Blessing Book videos that people view when they read The Blessing, and we're working on a personality tool right now that can help you better "attach high value" to your loved ones. (And see your own, God-given strengths more clearly as well).
Step three: So while our goal is to first explain the Blessing to you, and second equip you to live and give it each month, our prayer FOR SOME is that they'll consider becoming Blessing Champions! That's where they'll take on helping parents in their church learn about the Blessing. Or where they'll work with young adults, or as a coach, or with special need children and parents -- all to take the lead in sharing this biblical concept of the Blessing in a way AND setting that helps others Bring the Blessing home. We even have teamed up with Light University Online to help people who want to become Blessing Champions go through two courses that lead to a Blessing Champion Certificate - and better equip them to equip others.
But most of all, The Blessing is something that starts in YOUR home.
If you’re single and have a roommate – it’s THAT person God has "placed" in your life story with that needs your Blessing. If you’re married, it your life-partner that NEEDS your Blessing. If you have kids, the Blessing it’s ESSENTIAL not optional. That word “essential” is uppercase on purpose. I believe both biblically, and after 30 years of being a counselor, that if you withhold the Blessing from your child it can (and in many cases will) cause life-long hurt. For example, withhold the Blessing from a child and watch man of them become workaholics, trying all their life to feel acceptance and acceptable... yet somehow falling short even when they've done great things or been highly successful! Sure, your son or daughter can fight their way past the “dam” you’ve set up. (A picture of the "curse" that's the opposite of Blessing). You can choose NOT to Bless a child - but know there is a "choice" set before you. "I call heaven and earth to witness that I have set before you a choice. Life or death. The Blessing or the curse." Deut. 30:19. One way or the other, you ARE choosing to either Bless or curse - to add life or subtract from your child or loved one - but you the one thing you can't "choose" is to opt out of that choice God sets before you.
Which means that even if you’re a great-grandparent reading this and you’ve never chosen to give anyone downstream in your family the Blessing – YOU can choose to reverse the curse! ANYONE, at any age, can start giving the Blessing! Even if they never received it in their own home growing up!
The Blessing is all about giving 5 incredibly simple, life-giving things to that child or loved one God has placed in your life. 5 things that communicate unconditional love and acceptance and that point them towards a special future. You can even start giving the Blessing to that neighbor kid. That boy or girl in your class if you’re a teacher or coach, who needs it so much. That kid whose parents for whatever reason aren’t going to give it to him or her.
If you read the Blessing book, or go to www.TheBlessing.com, you'll find out about the Blessing Challenge. Our call to see a million of us - choose to give the Blessing to our family first, and then choose to write out and give a Blessing to ONE OTHER CHILD as a family that we're going to Bless as well.
Not quite convinced it's that big a deal? We just finished a brand new DVD series on the Blessing with our friends at Focus on the Family. Take just a minute to see what difference just a few words of Blessing meant to this young man. It's a story that launches the series. Then think about learning to bless your child, your friend, your spouse, those you work with, go to church with, do life with...
Being ON MISSION for Jesus starts with you BRINGING THE BLESSING HOME to YOUR FAMILY first. When them seeing God's love lived out @ home first. And the Blessing is a great way to show them a Heavenly Father's love.
Right after God created us... He blessed us. (Gen. 1:27-28). We were made for His Blessing and we're called to be a blessing to others. Starting with our own family.
At every seminar, an almost every day here at this website, we get a note from someone saying, "It so simple." or "I should have known!" or "I just didn't know!"
Again, I'm not in this challenge to get parents and loved ones to Bless their family alone. There's our own team at StrongFamilies.com whose focus every day is to send me out across the country to encourage others at seminars and conferences. And we have some incredible friends across the country we're teamed up with to help bring YOU the Blessing.
That begins with my partner in all things "blessing", Dr. Tony Wheeler. Tony is on the faculty at Barclay College and heads our Institute for the Blessing at Barclay College! He's also a pastor most Sundays in Wichita, Kansas and a Kansas State Ph.D. (K State having great team colors - but not being even 1/2 the team that TCU is in football, where I attended.).
In addition to working with Dr. Wheeler, who will jump in on Blogs here as well, I'm honored to work with Focus on the Family - our partner in The Blessing Challenge. Focus just shot with us a brand new Small Group DVD series for us on the Blessing! If you're in a small group you have GOT to go through this series. The feedback we're getting is just awesome.
Then there's Dewey and Lynne Wilson at Strong Marriages in Dallas, Texas. They're our "go to" people for helping you bring the Blessing home to your marriage. It's crucial to Bless your children. But without a doubt, having a Strong Marriage is in and of itself one of the greatest things you can do to reinforce that Blessing every day. Dewey and Lynne are a joy to work with. What they've done in helping mentor couples (even a great many struggling couples) by introducing the Blessing to a marriage is incredible. They’re also one of our Blessing Bloggers and you’ll love hearing from.
And to help you stay inspired to give the Blessing and to understand how God's blesses you - just click on the Music that Blesses Others! That's where you’ll meet Shon Stewart. He's an outstanding young man who's a Christian singer and awesome friend. For example, he just did an interview with Joni Erickson Tada that airs on her radio program on May 1st! Each month, Shon picks a key song for us that matches one of our monthly Blessing Themes. Shon, and his mom and dad, are the definition of inspiration AND blessing! So stay inspired at Music that Blesses Others!
Finally, our newest partner in getting out the message of the Blessing is a tremendous answer to prayer! Dr. Wheeler and my goal has been to not only teach on the Blessing ourselves, but to help train and encourage and even certify people to be Blessing Champions all across the country and world. So God brings us Light University Online! If you haven't heard of them, you will! They're the certificate training arm of AACC (The American Association of Christian Counselors). And they're "all in" on all things Blessing.
Amazingly, I'm the new Provost of the School of Marriage and Family Ministry and Vice President of Student Advancement at Light University! And Dr. Wheeler is the new Dean of the School of Marriage and Family Ministry! Meaning, we're heading out in just a few weeks (meaning March 2013) to start building and shooting our online courses to train and certify and launch a whole team of people across the country and world to be Blessing Champions!
You can read more about this in the "Training" tab on the home page. (Our first class has already completed their certificate! ). These are men and women like you who are committed to taking this biblical message of the Blessing to their home, family, church, friendships, workplace, school, neighborhood and community!
That's the long version of what blog is all about! It all comes down to us helping us, help YOU, create a culture of the Blessing in your home. Helping you live out the Blessing Experience.
May the Lord bless, keep and guide you and your loved ones in every new season of life!
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