How to write a letter of Blessing for your Parents

OK, I’m in! So how do I write a Blessing Letter to my Parents this Thanksgiving!

If you’ve been to the Blessing Challenge you’ll see how we encourage people to take an “easy first step” in giving the Blessing to a loved one. An easy, but powerful way of doing that is by writing a letter. (Even if the keys get stuck at times!). 

Here's what we mean by writing a Blessing letter. 

Think of it as just three short paragraphs. A way for you to focus your thoughts, and to bring the Blessing home to your parent’s heart this Thanksgiving… (PLUS you blessing your own Parents is a great modeling tool for your children as well!)

1. So pick one of your parents to start - 

NOTE: *If both your Mom and Dad will be at the table, make sure you write a letter of Blessing to each of them. I'm a twin. I get how people try to "lump" two people into one. But your mother AND father EACH need their own letter of Blessing.

*YES, you can read your letter of Blessing to them over the phone at Thanksgiving - or even better SKYPE or Facetime them if you’re not able to have them at your table that day. 

*Finally we know many people who have written a letter of Blessing at Thanksgiving for THAT FAMILY OR PERSON WHO STOOD IN FOR THEM AS A SUROGATE PARENT, if their own relationship with parent(s) doesn't making writing them an option.

2. You're going to write out THREE short paragraphs – let’s say it’s your mother who’ll be joining you at the table… You're almost writing out a prayer of thanks for them.

The first paragraph – share ONE character trait that you love and value about that person. Even using a “word picture” that links your words to something that “pictures” that character trait…

Example: “Mom, we are so grateful that you could come to our house for Thanksgiving. Since it’s a season of giving thanks, I wanted you to know that I have always marveled at how steady and consistent you’ve been. You know that grandfather clock we had when we were growing up? How it always stayed on time. Your consistency in always being there for us is something I’m thankful for every time I think about you."

The second paragraph – share ONE example of how you saw that person handle a tough situation, wisely and well.

Example: “Remember when you got sick when I was about 10 years old, and you had to quit working? Those were some tough times. But you stayed so positive and showed so much courage, even when things got pretty rough. Your faith that the Lord would take care of you, and of us, was such a great example to me. It calmed my fears, and it’s something that’s help me know I can trust the Lord in tough times as well."

And the third paragraph, share your “genuine commitment” to love and Bless this person all your life. Here’s an example…

Example: “So mom, before we have our turkey, I wanted you to know that I am so grateful that God has “blessed” me with you as my mom. And I want you to know that you have my blessing and my thanks for all you’ve done for me. For what you did for each of us kids. And with each year God gives us, I want you to know I’ll be there for you, like you’ve always been there for me."

Now read them your Blessing at the Thanksgiving table! And let us know how it went! (Or even send us a picture. We’ll post as many as we’re able!). That’s it! Just three short paragraphs that can tell that a parent that you love and value them. And make sure that you “type out” (or go old school and hand write) your Blessing, fold it up and put it in an envelope for them after you’ve read it to them.

And then enjoy a wonderful Thanksgiving!

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